Are You a Chronic Complainer?
Numbers 11:4-9, 31-35; 12:1-10; &
all had legitimate reasons to complain about something or other in our lives;
however, more and more people are using complaining as a second language. They
complain about anything and everything. Now, I'm not talking about making a
valid complaint to the appropriate person or company, or even having to go to
court when it's necessary. I'm speaking about complaining constantly or
chronically about everything, or perhaps it's about one situation all the time
or one person and never letting go of it.
The problem is that it's negative
speak and brings more negative into our lives. Negative speak reprograms our
brains by constantly shoving more and more negative comments into the front part
of our brains, the area that is readily accessible. This means that any positive
comments that were currently in that area are shoved further to the back in a
long-term storage, an area that takes some time and thought to access. Then,
when you need a quick response to someone, it's apt to be a negative one.
Negative speak pushes the positive program tapes into storage, replacing your
brain's quick thought programming with negative speak.
That, in itself, is enough reason
not to be a chronic complainer; however, there's an even more pressing reason to
clean up your act! Each time we complain, we are condemning ourselves with our
I recently began reading the Old
Testament each morning, cover to cover. I have been a chronic complainer for
several years. I'm easily influenced by the speech of others and picked this up
many years ago. The problem, of course, is that it becomes addictive; and I
couldn't break the habit.
When I hit the Book of Numbers, I got a rude awakening
& the motivation to stop the complaining!
In Numbers 11:4-9, the children
Israel are in the desert and begin complaining about having to eat manna. They
begin shouting for meat to eat, wailing that they should have remained in Egypt.
This infuriates God. By verses 31-35, He gave them quails to eat, using wind to
blown them in from the sea and dropping them all around them enough to feed
the multitudes for a month. But in His anger, He also gave them a very great
plague that killed thousands!
In Numbers 12:1-10, Aaron and his
sister, Miriam, begin complaining loudly against Moses. Again, God hears them
and orders Moses to bring them to him. In His anger, He turns Miriam into a
leper for seven days, meaning she had to live outside the camp and could not be
part of the Israelites during that time. (Aaron was the high priest, so he had
to remain in camp to tend to God and the people spiritually. Yet, he too was
punished, because he loved his sister very much.)
In Numbers 13, God has Moses send
envoys to check out the land they are to inhabit and report back. Part of their
report is how well-armed and fortified the towns are. By Numbers 14, the people
again begin complaining and wailing that they were all going to die and should
have remained in Egypt. God is so angry that He plans to wipe them all out and
make a nation of Moses. Moses intercedes for the people, and God relents, but
gives them the following punishment:
must remain in the desert for 40 years to ensure that all who were currently 20
years of age or older would be dead and not allowed to enter the promised land.
Otherwise, if they hadn't complained, they could have crossed into the promised
land right then.
- Of the envoys, only two stood
up and said they should trust God against the people already living in the
promised land. The other envoys are the ones who got the people riled up and
fearful all of these God struck dead there and then, allowing only the two
who trusted God to live.
complain, we are doing three things:
- We are not being grateful
for what God has provided to us, and
- We are not trusting God
to do what is best for us, trying to control the situation ourselves, and most
- We are
None of these reactions or
responses to God will go without punishment. For the chronic complainers, this
is going to add up very quickly. Yes, we can admit these sins to God and ask for
forgiveness; however, if we continue to go back out and commit the same sins,
there will still be forgiveness when we ask but will there not also be a
It's funny; but ever since I read
these chapters, I have done little complaining. I asked Jesus right there and
then to make me aware when I complain, since it had become a habit. He does, and
I'm getting much better and you can, too!
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